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Teaching hate


If hate is part of the curriculum of every school in the world, everyone will be astonished to find so many excelling in it. Or maybe not.

I was cooking dinner one day when my sister showed me some comments and posts on Instagram by two teenage girls bashing Asians, calling them ugly and saying they deserve to be raped by their parents, or far worse. I was not so much offended as disillusioned and disappointed. I couldn’t help but ask myself if I was like that when I was the girls’ age.

They are not more than 15 years old, yet they are already showing so much hatred toward people they don’t even know, calling Asians names and making a specific person the object of their mockery. Where is all this hatred coming from?

I had the same question during a conversation with a customer when I was working as a customer service representative.

The customer did not want to give me information about herself because, she said, I am not from the United States and I might send a bomb to her house. I tried to persuade her by telling her that I just needed the information to help her. But she didn’t budge, and even started saying that the Philippines is a country of terrorists. She also insisted that the Philippines is in the Middle East, between Iran and Pakistan.

I understand that these two situations do not make up the totality of the world view. These types of situation may be one in a million, but the idea of hatred is not all that unfamiliar. If you examine the matter closely, you will find that we have been breathing in the idea of hatred ever since we learned how to think.

When I was younger, I was never told not to mingle with so-called “bad” friends. No one really told me to choose who I befriend. I guess I am one of the lucky few.

It was in school that I was told to stay away from the delinquents and those who came from the so-called “bad” family or neighborhood. It was always “Don’t go with them, they will just ruin your studies” or “Stay away from them because they are good for nothing.”

My teachers always told me to stay away from “them” because they were a bad influence. One teacher even went ahead and told me that if I hung out with the “bad” ones, I would learn how to do drugs and steal, and achieve the makings of the next most-wanted person in the world .

Who in their right mind would tell that to a child? I guess everyone.

How many times have I heard some parents tell their children to stay away from this kid because his father is a drunkard, or that kid because his mother is someone’s mistress, or that other kid who’s not doing well in school? In no time, these kids would start to parrot everything their parents told them.

“Avoid.” “Detest.” “Ostracize.” If these were subjects in school, everyone would surely pass with flying colors.

Like most children, I went through the phase of being bullied and doing the bullying as well. I’ve called my peers names, labeled them, mocked them, and received the same treatment more than once.

It was the norm, it was acceptable, and it was what the older ones were doing, so we presumed that it was the right thing to do. We mimicked what we saw and made it our reality, our values, our beliefs.

Now that I am older, I just have one question to ask: Why is it so easy for us to teach our children how to hate, and so difficult for us to teach them about acceptance, or love?

People would always say that one has to separate the good eggs from the rotten ones when they talk about kids, forgetting that these are kids and, unlike eggs, each one has the capacity to change and be something more than just the son or daughter of their parents, or more than just a kid from their community no matter how good or bad it is.

One most commonly cited adage is the one that says a child cannot be anything other or more than what his/her parents are (“Kung ano ang puno ay siya ring bunga”).  So if your father is a gambler or your mother is a drunkard, then your fate is sealed: You will grow up to be either of the two or, worse, both.

And the so-called “good” kids will be told to avoid you and shun you because you deserve it for being born to such a “bad” family or for coming from a really “bad” neighborhood.

All this is just plain hypocritical, but that’s how we seem to see things, and that’s what we tell our children. So who will blame them for having that mentality?

Not once did I hear parents tell their children to befriend the so-called “bad” kids in the hope that their own kids will set a good example, and not in the thought that they will be influenced to be bad.

I never heard parents tell their kids to befriend those who were not performing well in class so that they could be of help. Instead, the kids were told to stay away from the laggards because their own studies would supposedly be affected.

So how does one learn how to hate? How does one learn to be prejudiced? How does one learn to put a barrier between oneself and the others who are not of one’s “kind”?

Hatred has become a viral disease, and with the aid of the Internet and all these social networking sites, it has become so easily spread, is in fact uncontrollable, and more lethal. You don’t get hated and singled out by just your classmates in the classroom nowadays; you get the same treatment while the whole world watches.

Were we taught how to hate? Will we teach our children the same thing? If we were and we will, then who are we to preach about unity, equality? Who are we to talk about love?

Or is this hatred something innate, something that we were born with? I hope not. Because if it is, then all this talk about love and peace and especially equality is nothing but pure hypocrisy and lies.


Jayson Arvene T. Mondragon, 26, is an unemployed journalism undergraduate.

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  • josh_alexei

    It was hatred that was the motivation of the NAZI to declare that the Jewish people were unpure and must be eliminated…it was hatred between the Tutsi and the Hutu that we saw another senseless Violence and in this Regards the only Criminal Limitation to our Freedom of Expression and of Press (other than matters of National Security) is Publicly Promoting Hatred against any group of individuals, race, religion, sexual orientation, etc…and our authorities are quite successful in prosecuting those who did, even by the anonymity of law the Police can ask the Court to have the Internet provider reveal the IP or the subscriber…And Yes, once you let an Individual promote hatred, there is no telling where and when will it Stop…So tell your Representative to do something about it. We did and we got results.

    • Alexandre Amproz

      Violence and hate is teach in the Old Testament.

      Look at the Tora results in Palestine and Israel.

      Yahweh requested Ashera to be kick out from his temple,

      since then, no more Goddess, God is a male, exit women…

      The BOOK is at the source of exclusion for the book cultures.

      Crusaders, communists, Nazi or Zionism are good result examples.

      Didn’t Bush said “God with us” and Hitler “Gott mit uns” and

      muslims Allah Akbar, all of them said it on purposes to commit atrocities…

      The Philippines is probably one of the most religious, sectarian, xenophobic with understandable reasons, and one of the most violent,

      same with Israel and Iran, isn’t it ?

      To reject the other is the best way to be rejected !

      • riza888

        The Bible does not teach hate. Bad people take everything out of context and turn it into hateful preaching. There will always be people who pervert a perfectly good book into a hateful manuscript.

      • Alexandre Amproz

        You are partially correct but since the early time,
        when Constantin adopt the Christian religion its because he understood the monotheism, one God, one Emperor chosen by God. Then Christianity was good for the central power, laughingly GMA said she was chosen by God, Filipinos swallowing it straight, showing how backward they are.

        Priests are traditionally the one perverting the “holly” text’s, so strongly, to the point to provoke schism.

        Scientifically speaking, only very few elements have existing roots like the Ponce Pilate existence, the rest is pure tales and inventions.

        The Hebrew discovered writing and reading in the VI BC,

        Moses was from the XI BC, he didn’t know to write…
        At last none Hebrew knows to read till the VI BC,
        500 years after, only !

        The Salomon Great Kingdom didn’t left any archeological traces, almost every details of this historical period are known.
        This supposed Salomon Kingdom was surrounded by highly developed civilizations, Egypt, Greece and Babylon. Tons of reliable texts are existing in every neighboring civilizations, confirmed by archeology. Even in Herodote from Halicarnas(Bodrum today), almost a “Salomon Kingdom” contemporary and neighbor. He wrote with detailed the area geography and History, not a single mention of Salomon…

        Same can be said about Jesus, but it isn’t important, his message is. The Philippines Clergy avoid it carefully, while insisting on the pagan side of idolatry to take colonial advantages.

        God is love became God is fearful, share and protect weak and poor became God own everything, bring to the Church what is requested, Starvation power ruled the place.

        An other literary hoax is Jesus looking like the Spanish Infant, a future King chosen by God, strangely Jesus is a poverty symbol, maybe that why the Clergy turned a rich country into one of the poorest, keeping the wealth for themselves or export for Spain Kings and Vatican, leaving the Filipinos naked as a Christian philosophy example, what a disgusting irony !

        Christianized on dry bleeding purposes !

        Since then rape, robbery and killings are guide lines in the collective unconsciousness, destroying totally the country, soils, seas and peoples included, wild life, birds, mammals and fishes are gone, only some insects and snakes left.

        Peoples have to left the country for survival !

        That is the Gullible Christians success !

        NB: The Philippines was a Spanish convicts and unwanted trash can, a nice way to emptied the jails with colonial juicy purposes, poor Filipinos, how many unfair slavery sufferances and spoliation’s done under “Jesus” name ?

        Today “Karma” consequences are frightening !

      • josh_alexei

        Fortunately, we realized this phenomenon in Canada since we are a country of all Nationalities and Immigrants where Iranians and Israelis live next doors to each others…where Muslims and Jews shops at the same malls and all cultures and races and join and watch the Gay Pride week celebration that the reason why it is a Criminal Offense to promote Hatred since once one starts it, it will be Free for All…We don’t know How LONG we can hold the Line, but we will be steadfast as Long as we could..

      • riza888

        As a society, Canadians are quite evolved, and you’ve learned what not to say, but you might not have taken on what that means at a more unconscious level. We all have biases, whoever we may be. Unconscious bias can affect decisions with devastating consequences. Biases of race, culture or gender can prevent people from identifying the best talent, or unfairly influence decisions about a promotion or raise.

      • Alexandre Amproz

        In Geneva, with a traditional 50% foreigner residents from 150 different countries, it’s a permanent pleasure.
        Switzerland with a traditionally 20% foreigners, rarely have problems.

        There is about 10’000 illegal Pinoy’s, quite a lot on a 400’000 population, never hear a single problem with them and they are well appreciated, hard worker and friendly is their reputation.

        One day, Elites kids from a fancy Hotel School where going to miss their back home Christmas flight, blackmailed the Airport authorities by Phone with a bombe “Joke”.
        Jailed, casual Filipinos don’t have that stupid, arrogant and lawless culture.

        NB: Dreaming for the day Philippines will respect the wonderful Natives and stop to victimize them.

        PS: Philippines is one of the most unfair and discriminative society among the 60 countries I have been, the other bad and dangerous belongs to the former Spanish Empire.

      • josh_alexei

        Our lawmakers also took that into consideration, that biases and prejudice are inherent in all of us, that is why the law was carefully was Public promotion of Hate with heavy burden of proof on part of the Crown to prove the intentions while safeguards on our Freedoms and Rights of thoughts and expressions remain valid. Private discussions or in the context of Religion and cultures (we are the among the first to recognized same sex union as Equal with the same benefits and protection in Law, Eliminated all forms of discrimination in regards to age, sex, race, colour, height, nationality as an official policy. the very First to adopt Multiculturalism as a National Policy and Affirmative Action for employment amelioration.

  • Pio Gante

    it’s never been a perfect world jayson, so live with it.

  • Eelap

    We are not only teaching hate to our children, we are also teaching them to be corrupt and we are not aware of it.

  • Tristanism

    Stay away from Teryo because he’s crazy in the head. He will hit you with a stick. That’s not hate. That’s Teryo. He’s crazy.

    May mga tao talagang dapat iwasan. :)

  • Spidekick

    Agree with Alexander Amproze. Hate is deeply seated in our consciousness. And books that have espoused hate have been the bedrock of our faiths e.g., old testament and the koran.

    Remember also that the most ancient parts of our brain have been wired to protect us from perceived adversaries such as wild animals, natural forces, and yes, other humans who would steal our food, rape our women, and kill our hunters.

    Hence, it is a basic human trait to protect territory and consider outsiders as competitors or enemies.

    Jesus and his followers actually taught us to reprogram the brain when they told Christians to hate “sin” but love the sinner.

    • tarikan

      Hating the “sins” but love the sinner (the teachings of JC & followers) is the perfect formula for the likes of the Marcoses, Estradas, Enriles, and other notables in the plunderers’ field to be accepted by their society. How can the authorities punish the “sins” and set free the sinner? Weird teachings I would guess.

      • Spidekick

        Reflect on it deeper tarikan and you’ll understand.
        Hating the sin means rebuking the sinful act, ensuring that justice be accorded to whoever is offended by the sinful act, be it a person or an institution, and the person committing the sinful act experiencing the consequences of the act, and allowing him/her to repent, ask forgiveness, reform and renew his life.
        Hope this is clear enough.
        Anyway, it’s indeed one of the extremely radical teachings of JC.

  • Fulpol

    they hate because they really don’t understand themselves..

    if you are intelligent and well off, you hate the poor and uneducated for voting traditional politicians..

    you hate the poor because you really don’t understand yourself.. what motivates you to hate..

    • Alexandre Amproz

      The motivation to kept the loot’s while turning a blind eye on the responsibilities. (Clergy, JPE, Imelda and so many others criminals crooks)

      None accountabilities, a Philippines cherish “cultural tradition” with human and environment dire consequences smelling death.

  • tarikan

    There are things and people we have to hate, Jayson, otherwise we might love bad things and bad people. No harm to discriminate against bad things and bad people. Okay, try to love the murderers, plunderers, corrupt people, rapists, pedophiles, philanderers, etc. make them welcome to your home and let your children be friends with their children, chances are that you’d be loving them sinners in no time. Well, that is acceptance and equality for you.

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