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One day I hope to meet an imperfect man who will seem perfect to me from time to time.

He will not be the best I have ever met, but he will be great when I need him to be. He will hold my hand when we cross the street and make sure I stay on the safe side of the road. He will kiss me goodnight before I go to sleep, and he will kiss me torridly when I don’t want to sleep. He will wake me up with a pat on my leg and once in a while surprise me with breakfast in bed. He will argue with me, taunt me, frustrate me, but he will also let me win without having to tell me.

He will cradle me when I need to be babied, respect me when I need to feel big, and scold me when I make a big mistake. He will sing to me when quiet makes me lonely, and remain quiet when noise makes me mad. He will not always read me correctly, but he will always make his best guess. His timing will often be off when calculating my moods, but when he does find that perfect moment, he will make it one that I will never forget.

He will touch me when my heart is cold and cool me down when my head is hot. He will see through my Tupperware expressions and detect my tears before they fall. He will understand many things I am saying with my eyes, but sometimes he will pretend he doesn’t see them at all. He will hurt me time and again, but he will ask to be forgiven just as often. He will lose his temper because he is human, but he will always strive to become a better man.

He will falter and fall and make mistakes, but he will also rise above himself. He will hold open a door for me, although sometimes he will forget. He will order me around, but will bow when I resist. He will take me to a bar, dance with me, go wild with me, but he will also escort me to the theater to watch a play he never really wanted to see.

He will go shopping with me, but he will roll his eyes only when I am inside the fitting room, not when I can see him. He will stand by me at the cosmetics corner, and pretend he’s not bothered by the shade of purple I am trying on. He will laugh at me, not just with me, to remind me not to take myself too seriously.

He will tell me the whole truth when I am ready for it, but he will be ready with his half-truths when that’s what I should hear. He will make me realize that I need him, but only up to half as much as he needs me. He will make me admit that I want him, but only after he professes how he feels about me. He will bring out the best and the worst in me, but he will stick with me always.

One day I will meet an imperfect man. He will love me, and I will love him wholeheartedly.

Georgina Angsanto, 26, writes ads for a living but is really a full-time aunt and “yaya.”


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  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    NBSB ka ‘ne no? halata naman sa pinagsususulat mo na ignorante ka pa sa love. pag nagkaron ka na ng experience magbabago yang mga pinagsususulat mo. maxado kang romantiko. sa pelikula lng nangyayari yang pinapantasya mo.

    walang ideal man. hindi ka nga naghahanap ng Mr. Perfect, pero may set ka pa rin na hinahanap. yang mga lista mo ng: he will cradle me, he will touch me, he will falter and fall…

    mga lista yan ng babaeng maxadong nasa ulap ang isip. gumising ka. wag kang maghanap ng lalaking ready-made. na may mga kalidad na nililista mo. ang hanapin mo lng ay un lalaking mamahalin mo kahit na ni isang kalidad sa pathetic list mo ay wala sa kanya.

    ano ba mas importante, makahanap ka ng lalaking dine describe mo jan sa sinulat mo o makahanap ka nung mahal mo?

    feelings mo lng ang importante girl. sa hangganan lng ng heartbreak ang aabutin mo pag nag persist ka maghanap ng lalaking tutugma sa lahat ng inilista mo. marami kang mahahanap na Mr. Imperfect. pero hindi sa pagkaka imperfect na sinasabi mo. dahil kahit yang imperfectness na dine-describe mo eh perfect pa rin. ka ulolan ng romantiko.

    “One day I will meet an imperfect man. He will love me, and I will love him wholeheartedly.”

    tanga ka pala eh. kung he will love you wholeheartedly, perfect na yan. yan lng naman ang kailangan. so the fact na he loves you wholeheartedly already disqualifies him as your Mr. Imperfect. dahil ayon sayo, imperfect lng gusto mo. e di maghanap k nung halfheartedly k lng mamahalin para makuha mo ang hinahanap mong Mr. Imperfect.

    i assure you, yan lng ang pinagkakaiba ni Mr. Perfect at ni Mr. Imperfect – the will to love wholeheartedly. so san ka, babaeng ilusyonada?

  • Anonymous

    Good Luck Georgina. I hope your man is neither dead already nor unborn yet.

  • Anonymous

    Give the young girl the chance to daydream. Wishful writing lang naman ang ginawa niya,Pare ko.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    ahehe. better to wake her up now before her heart is broken.

  • Anonymous

    Tama lang yung advice mo pero sa bandang huli matututunan niyang kusa iyan kapag nakakilala na siya ng mga Mr. Imperfect.

    Pero huwag mo naman siyang tawaging “ignorante”, “ilusyonada” at “tanga”. Hindi naman gentlemanly yan na pakikipag-usap sa isang babae, lalo na’t hindi mo kilala nang personal. At sino ba ang hindi naging tanga kahit minsan nang dahil sa pag-ibig? Lahat ng taong nagmamahal at umaasa may karapatang maging romantiko. Hayaan mo na.

    Good luck sa iyo, Georgina. Mahanap mo sana ang para sa iyo.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    di naman ako nagke claim na gentleman ako. pero nagsasabi ako ng totoo.

    mangangailangan pa si Georgina ng higit pa sa swerte para mahanap nya ang hinahanap nya, lololol. nabsa mo ba un sinulat nya? detalyadong imperfectness, whew! na pag binasa mo eh hindi naman weaknesses talaga bagkus strengths pa nga.

  • Anonymous

    oh what a nice imperfect man, good luck, keep on choosing  till you find that very lucky lucky man.  i almost felt young again.   but wait a minute is that your dad to your mom?  

  • Anonymous

    onli in your dreams hehehe…pero libre naman mangarap…hilig mo siguro magbasa ng romance novels no?pero ok yan,very romantic..itong lola mong nasasakdal na taga pampanga,hindi romantic kundi sobrang swetik.

  • taga_ilog

    its all about YOU, YOU, YOU, how self-centered naman of you…. naghahanap ka ng hangin nene

  • taga_ilog

    or end being alone since wala ung hinahanap nya, haha

  • Anonymous

    let her be…goodluck …nothing is impossible … have faith Ga 

  • http://twitter.com/ZALZANZIBAR ALBERTO ZALAZAR

    HOY..! Gising…tulog ka pa ba…?…ako ang hinahanap mo…kung ako naman ang kukunin mong kaparti ng buhay mo…swerte mo…HINDI KA maglilinis ng bahay,…HINDI KA maglalaba,…HINDI KA magsasaing,…mas lalo na na HINDI KA magsho-shopping.DAHIL…!..wala akong BAHAY,…WALA tayong bigas na sasaingin,…WALA akong mga damit,…WALA akong pera para pang shopping mo…”PERO ang ipagmamalaki ko lang ay ang buong PUSO KO para sayo na handa akong magbago at iahon kita sa kahirapan para sa ganoon ay HINDI KA magsisi…! bago mag-pasko ay darating ako sa OFFICE MO at hintayin mo ako,…may-dala akong SAPIN-SAPIN…yan lang ang kaya ko para pamasko sayo,…TINGNAN NATIN kung…HINDI KA …ma-INLOVE sa isang pobreng alindahaw na katulad ko…

  • http://twitter.com/ZALZANZIBAR ALBERTO ZALAZAR

    “LOVE ME or HATE ME…..”….

  • Anonymous

    Pansin ko lang, puro lalaki ata ang nagcocomment at lahat halos eh napaka-negative. Hindi sa pinagtatanggol ko ang babae na ‘to dahil babae rin ako. Ako man eh nakapangasawa ng imperfect na lalaki, dahil ang totoo ay walang perpektong lalaki. Totoo na ang sinabi niya eh karaniwang sa nobela lang nahahanap. Either this man has been dead for centuries, or kakasagot pa lang sa kanya ng babae ng isang linggo.

    Pero hindi ito rason para mambastos tayo at pagsabihan ang isang tao ng negatibong adjectives samantalang hindi mo naman kilala ang buong pagkatao niya. Siguro nakita mo ang isang facet ng personality niya sa pamamagitan ng sinulat niya, pero hindi ibig sabihin ay may karapatan ka ng husgahan siya bilang tao. Hindi mo siya kilala.May karapatan ang lahat na magpahayag ng opinyon nila, pero sa bawat kuro-kuro, kapag hindi ka sang-ayon sa sinasabi ng isa, dapat lang i-contradict mo ang opinyon niya pero hindi mo titirahin ang pagkatao niya. Respetuhan ng opinyon kumbaga. There should be a level of civility and respect. ‘Wag mong ipilit na maging opinyon niya ang opinyon mo. HIndi siya ikaw. Kung ang opinyon man niya ay opinyon ng hangal,  then let her be. Malalaman niya rin how reality works on her own. Ano ba ang nangyari sa ‘yo, Jao Romero, at napaka-cynical at walang modo sa babae? Has your heart been terribly broken by a girl before? Huhuhu.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_OHUUEZMSDKFMZLMGHAF6MUB5HI Freddie Mariano

    Georgina, parang ako to ha. Sayang, happily married na ako!

  • Anonymous

    A very well written dream.  Sorry to say na, i-ilan lang kami in existence, and speaking for myself, I have been taken for the last 43 happy years.  Georgina, if you are the reflection in that mirror reflecting the man you descriptively wrote about, Mr. Imperfect will not be too hard to hook up with.  Good luck to you, girl. 

  • Anonymous

    Mr. Jao please be reminded that each person is unique and “no one has the monopoly of truth”. Your truth might not be true to other persons. Please give respect to others — that is civility.

  • Anonymous

    your statements shows that you are “retired person”. being hopeful for good is to be alive. everyday, there is hope and if you believe in miracle, then everything is possible.

  • taga_ilog

    hindi po… hahaha realistic lang ako. libre nga mangarap pero mangarap ka ng kayang mong i-attain pra di ka napu-frustrate at saka hindi ako retired, masaya ako sa buhay ko. hawak ko ang oras ko. hindi ako pressured. and kasayahan ko sa sarili ko at sa kung ano man ang meron ako ay tinatawag na contentment, sadly marami sa atin ang hindi kontento at nangangarap ang mga imposibleng bagy gaya ng sumulat ng article. Marami lang kasi a kong kakilala na gaya nya na nag-iisa sa buhay dahil sa kakahanap ni Mr. Imperfect na gaya ng idea ng contributor na ito. Masarap mangarap pero iba ang totoong buhay, dapat magising, hindi nagde-daydream. 

  • Anonymous

    There is only one perfect on this world, that is LOVE. When a man loves you, you will become perfect to him. If you love him, he will become perfect to you 

    LOVE has no listing of do’s and don’ts. LOVE is simply composed of two words, two entity: YOU and ME, and not ME and ME or YOU and YOU.

  • Anonymous

    mag-bihis k para mag-mukha kang PSP, meron magkakagusto sa yo..pero meron kang karibal, sya si Teray Katuray

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_RWMUHAICCBMSWWQNMTUTBWHXBY Onofre

    I know some men that can make a lady feel like a princess when he is around.  The problem is too many ladies wanted to be treated like princesses, thus, these men have many princesses.  

    There are only a few good men and most of them are already taken.  And most of those who were not taken could be gays.

    The imperfection in men is only reciprocal to the imperfection of the ladies.  Take it that way.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    respect is earned, not just blithely given. i don’t give out respect on auto pilot. i hardly even know the person.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    walang modo? pinagmumura ko ba xa? maswerte na xa sa mga adjectives na yan. sakto lng yan. walang labis, walang kulang.
    e alangan naman tawagin ko syang madunong sa love, e wala pa ngang alam. ano tawag dun? di ba ignorante?
    e alangan naman tawagin ko syang realist e halata namang dreamer sya. ano tawag dun? di ba ilusyonada?
    e alangan namang tawagin ko xang henyo, e di nya nga matanto na ang hinahanap nyang imperfect ay perfect na sa mata ng iba. ano tawag dun, di ba tanga?

    walang kinalaman ang experience ko sa ibang babae sa pagtrato kay Georgina. lahat ng tao, babae o lalaki, ganito ang trato ko. pag tanga ka, wag ka nang umasa ng respeto sa akin.
    umiyak ka mag sarili mo.

  • Anonymous

    Mam bumili na lang po kayo ng TV. Puro na lang ikaw e.

  • Anonymous

    Are you talking about Grandpa??..hehe..what is the worst that a man (or woman) can eat????
    answer: the Wedding Cake!!!

  • Anonymous

    is this really an editorial? 

  • Anonymous

    Giorgina, marry me, he he

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4TIJOGWL5B3KFS74TIK2AHYHEY Krayon

    Whaat, how do you know how what he will do and what he will be like? What if someone only does 90% of what you described here? Not good enough? What about 95%? Still no?

    Talk about high standards. LOL

  • Yves Macatangay

    Nakakatuwa naman na tinawag mo yung nagsulat na “romantiko” habang ikaw tong nagsabi ng ”kung he will love you wholeheartedly, perfect na yan. yan lng naman ang kailangan.” Love lang ang kailangan? Edi mas praktikal pala yung nagsulat ng artikulo dahil may standards sya. May basehan yung “love”. Hindi masamang magkaroon ng standards (masama nga lang pag sobra), mas masama yung maging bitter ka dahil hindi ka sinagot ng nililigawan mo kasi may hinahanap syang magandang relasyon at taong makakasundo nya.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    sino ba ang bitter? may asawa’t anak na ako. kaya siguro naman, alam ko pinagsasasabi ko. praktikal ba yung mag lista ng kung ano2 at umasang mahahanap lahat ito sa isang tao? di ba mas praktikal na LOVE lang ang asahan? at least un posible.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    ilusyonada nga.

  • http://jaoromero.com/ Jao Romero

    it’s a contributor piece, not an editorial.

  • Anonymous

    In her way of describing, she is looking for the perfect imperfect man for her. There’s no way for her to find all those qualities in one man, but in those words lie what most women want to find in a guy, even just a bit of those things, because you can say that a person can grow with that kind of man. It’s a realistic man who makes mistakes because he is also human. True, she’s romantic, but at least she knows what shouldn’t be in a relationship. Most girls could learn from this as well. It’s not enough for the guy to say he loves you wholeheartedly. Love is important but it doesn’t put food on the table nor does it heal bruises from an angry outburst inflicted by the same guy who says he loves you. Magpapakabulag na lang ba ang babae sa konsepto na sapat na ang pagmamahal kahit siya na ang dehado? Siyempre hindi.

    There’s more to a relationship than just the feelings of love. It’s in the little everyday things, it’s the way that a couple can learn from each other and continue to grow with each other. Georgina’s Mr. Imperfect may not be everything she had written there, but he will be the right one for her. =)

    And on a last note, if there’s one thing people should remember on the internet, it’s to never feed the trolls.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000043006599 Genevieve Francisco

    Personally, simply put, the author just implies how she would take her future partner’s imperfections unconditionally.Without reservations,whoever that’d be.:)

  • Anonymous

    I like your replay, curiouzkatt…. You are incredibly realistic when it comes to things……



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